‘Letting Go of Perfect …’

Findhorn Beach, Moray Firth

Hello. I’ve been to Scotland since I last wrote (hence the pretty pics), for a flying visit to the OH’s rellies. There was no snow but believe me, it was cold!

Talking of snow, the snow that usually appears as if by magic, floating down the screeen on this blog every December, hasn’t worked this year! And I don’t know why (and I haven’t got time to investigate) but it’s a shame because it always looks so lovely and festive! 😦

And now, I’m contemplating writing my Christmas cards (something I ALWAYS end up leaving until the last minute, despite my best intentions).

My feelings about Christmas cards are thus:

– They’re are a bit daft and outdated – like lots of things in life – but no-one wants to give them up. We need a brave soul to stand up and say ‘Enough!’ And ban them. Perhaps Mrs May will do it when she gets a moment.

– They’re particularly stupid when you give them to people in the office that you sit next to every day. What on earth is the point? But, I must admit, that when people say, “Erm, I’m not giving Christmas cards this year. I’m making a donation to charity instead”, I do think, “Yeah, right.” Which is a bit mean of me, isn’t it? (They just have to show me the donation receipt and it’ll all be fine).

– And then, there are the ones you send through the post, mostly to people you don’t see from one year to the next and actually, it would be quite nice to hear a little bit of their news (as long as it’s not too gushing) but you either get NOTHING (just ‘Happy Christmas!’, which seems like such a wasted opportunity) or, as we did this week, you get a 3 page missive of closely-typed wordage, so detailed, it practically tells you what the person had for breakfast every day and ….agh, is simply too much.

I think part of my procrastination is that I feel I should, somehow, strike the balance between no information and too much information and it all seems like such a headache, that I just keep putting it off.

Pebbled beach

Of course, what we should all be doing is ‘letting go of perfect’ – and embracing ‘good enough’ (and I’ve blogged about this before, here).

We were urged to ‘let go of perfect’ in the Waitrose Weekend magazine, a couple of weeks ago, in an article entitled “Make Time For You” (hashtag #selfcare). It sounds like a great idea but then, a few pages later, in the same magazine, I spotted another article on ‘Creating the Perfect Home at Christmas’.

Ah, I give up.

More Findhorn Beach on the Moray Firth

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8 Responses to ‘Letting Go of Perfect …’

  1. I actually enjoy writing, sending, and receiving those old fashioned cards, but to each his or her own. I don’t care for tinsel and Christmas do-dads all over the house, so that’s where I simplify.

  2. juliathorley says:

    Two thoughts for you. 1) Don’t let perfect get in the way of good enough. 2) At what point do I stop putting my sons’ names on Christmas cards I send out? I mean, they’ve both left home now. Is it OK to put ‘From all of us to all of you’?

    • Hm, yes, a tricky one about your sons’ names! I would put them on anyway! I’m sure the friends and family that you’re sending cards to probably know your sons aren’t at home any more but it’s the sentiment, isn’t it?

  3. Maria Smith says:

    I’ve finally been brave enough not to do the card thing…well not wide and far. Just two this year, one for my old mum, and one for friends who are such a smashing couple and do so much for me.

    Believe me when I say it’s liberating not to have to sit and write out lots of cards to people you don’t see from one Christmas to the next.

    • Helen Yendall says:

      Well done, Maria, for making a stand! And I’m glad it’s not just me who thinks some Christmas cards are a bit pointless! (I was thinking, after that last post, that I’d sounded like a bit of an old misery!). Maybe next year I’ll do something different!

  4. Rosemary Reader and Writer says:

    I agree with everything you say about Christmas cards. There seems to be no happy medium. We hung back from the Christmas round robin for a long time but now we include one side of typed A4 of potted family news. I hate those Christmas newsletters which are all boasting. It’s difficult to know what to include and what to leave out, what tone to adopt, whether to include bad news as well as good.

    • Hi Rosemary, thanks for your message and it’s good to know I am not alone re. Christmas cards! (was beginning to worry that this post was too grumpy and downbeat!). I think ’round robins’ – if done well – can be great but if, as you say, they’re just full of boasting (‘Ciara was invited to play piano for the Bishop in the spring…’), I can’t be doing with them! Like any kind of writing, there is a skill involved, isn’t there? I’d rather they were self-depreciating and humorous, with a mixture of success and failure, good news and not-so-good. But, easier said than done!

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